Sunday, August 13, 2017

Raising the Bar
by Roger Brewer


            I search for the positive for Americans of African descent arising out of Mr. Donald Trump being elected President of the United States. Perhaps there is more, but I find one positive thing in particular.      
            Some concerned citizens are confronting their fellow Americans who voted for Mr. Trump based on the position that Mr. Trump is bad news for racial equality. People who voted for Mr. Trump and who are confronted in this way are usually inclined to answer that they are not racist and neither is Mr. Trump. But this answer, even if correct, is not sufficient because it wrongly assumes that all anyone has to do to be a good citizen with regard to race relations is not be a racist.    
            In case you have not noticed, a new standard is evolving concerning personal behavior in matters of race. This new standard did not begin with Mr. Trump, but certainly it has become more prominent than before as a result of Mr. Trump's election.
            Increasingly, it is no longer sufficient that you are not a bigot or that someone you know is not a bigot. If you are not a bigot, that's surely a good thing. But do you also confront family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and others who make bigoted statements or commit bigoted acts as you witness such behavior in your everyday life? Do you participate in or actively support efforts to eliminate political, social, and economic injustice caused by current or past bigotry and prejudice? Do you hold all elected and appointed public officials to standards that require them to stand proactively and prominently against racism and address all racial inequities?
            Simply not being a bigot falls short of the requirements of good citizenship. It is wrong to do nothing while your fellow Americans suffer injustice.
            Beginning with Colonial America, we have existed as the American People for a period of 411 years. For all but 53 years of our journey, the disparate treatment of black people was cruel, overt, and pervasive. Specifically, we had 259 years of slavery followed by 99 years of racially oppressive laws, policies, and practices, including the brutal "separate but equal doctrine" that was approved by the United States Supreme Court in 1896. We have this horrible history of racial oppression precisely because not enough non-bigoted Americans spoke out in support of their fellow human beings of African descent. 
            Of course, the past is the past and certainly we, the American people, should move beyond the past. But we have not moved beyond the past. Indisputably, with the enactment of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, we now have laws that prohibit racial discrimination. But these laws against racist practices have been in effect for only 53 years as compared to 358 years of past racial oppression that was permitted, sanctioned and compelled by law. Bigoted attitudes continue today as they are passed from one generation to the next. Bigoted attitudes today result in racially motivated denial in jobs, housing, business endeavors, voting rights, and other areas of life. These bigoted attitudes threaten and intimidate Americans of African descent and harm them further in their sense of self-worth, even when there is no denial of a specific material benefit. In addition, racist practices of the past are the direct cause of inequality today in jobs, housing, education, and economic status.
            The most effective way, and perhaps the only way, to finally bring about racial justice in the United States is for the American public to take personal responsibility. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends." The bar has been raised. If you have not done so already, take up this new standard of personal behavior and apply it to yourself. Encourage others to do the same and challenge them if they do not. As Americans, we proudly and boldly claim the benefits of our American heritage without hesitation. May we now have the courage and integrity to accept responsibility for its harm.     

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Workshop

If you have attended any of our workshops, please comment on your experience.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Achievement

Does your self esteem depend on how others of your race, religion, ethnic background, gender, or sexual orientation achieve or perform in society? Post your question or comment on this question, or on any other “withstanding the lie” topic on your mind.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Barack Obama

In what ways, if any, will the election of Barack Obama as President of the United States affect you in the way you protect yourself mentally and emotionally from the bigotry of others?

Monday, November 17, 2008

Self-esteem Issues Unrelated to Bigotry

Sometimes when people put you down you may find it difficult to identify any specific bigoted motivation on their part. It doesn't matter. You still have a right and an obligation to protect yourself on the inside. If you have self-esteem issues unrelated to bigotry, the practices and principles of withstanding the lie can still help you.

Monday, September 29, 2008

Bigoted Attitudes Against You

We make the point in our book Withstanding the Lie that you can suffer mental and emotional hurt and the loss of self-esteem due to the bigoted attitudes of others even when no one commits a specific act of bigotry against you. The mere fact that others consider you inferior because of the group or groups to which you belong can be detrimental. What do you do to protect yourself from bigoted attitudes when there is no specific bigoted behavior? Please let us hear from you.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Preliminary Question

As you are aware from our first post on July 9, 2008, we are trying to teach others how to protect themselves from mental and emotional hurt, especially the loss of self-esteem, due to the bigotry of others. On our website (www.withstandingthelie.com) we invite people to ask questions and provide feedback on the information and teachings we are providing. Your comments or questions on this blog is another avenue for you to let us hear from you.

In our post on July 9, 2008, we proposed multiple questions and we would still like to hear from you on the questions we presented at that time. In this post, we want to narrow your focus. We invite you to let us hear from you on the following preliminary question: Since bigotry still happens, despite our efforts to stop it, do you believe individuals should have a specific strategy to protect themsleves from the loss of self-esteem and other mental and emotional hurt due to the bigotry of others? What is your answer and what are the reasons for your conclusion?

Please let us here from you and please visit our website to understand more fully what you and others can do to withstand the bigotry of others.

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Let's Start Protecting Ourselves Now!

"Even though we have laws on the books against discrimination you can't always stop the bigotry of other people, no matter how hard you try. But you can stop people from hurting you on the inside and taking away your self-esteem." (From the website Withstandingthelie.com)

"Your opinion of yourself plays a fundamental role in determining the overall course and quality of your life, and there is no greater negative influence on what you think and feel about yourself and ultimately what you do with your life than the disparaging treatment and negative attitudes of others. Therefore, protecting yourself mentally and emotionally from the harmful conduct of others should be one of your highest priorities" (From the book Withstanding the Lie)

We wrote the book Withstanding the Lie and started this blog because we feel there is a compelling need today that is not being addressed adequately. Clearly, we are striving as a nation to one day eliminate all harmful discrimination, but it will certainly take a long time to accomplish our mission. Meanwhile, people are being destroyed on the inside by the prejudice of others. We believe the loss of self-esteem and the other mental and emotional harm that people suffer due to bigotry can be greatly diminished, if not prevented altogether. We believe there is much that we can do and must do right now to protect ourselves from the bigotry of others, as we await that day when discrimination is no more.

What are some of the ways that you are hurt mentally and emotionally or suffer the loss of self-esteem when others commit acts of bigotry against you? What harm do you suffer as a result of negative attitudes in public opinion against you because of your race, religion, ethnic background, gender, sexual orientation or other similar attributes? And what do you do to protect yourself? Yes, there is indeed much that we can do and it all begins with conversation. Let's begin our conversation now. Please let us hear from you on the questions we have proposed.